Was Losing My Virginity Worth it?

Talk about what their virginity was worth.  Virginity is interesting because it’s one of those moments that’s a big deal until it happens, and then suddenly it’s no longer fascinating. One of the oldest type of sex toys, dildos have been pushed aside in recent years in favor of vibrators.  Kind of like turning 21, which seems so important (and is a big deal for awhile), but then after the novelty wears wears off you are having some beer at home or ordering two of your favorite mixed drinks at a local bar instead of getting entirely plastered off of shooters that are only recommended to you because they have racy names (I can’t think of the last time I ordered a Red Headed Slut). Realistic Dildos are an ideal sex toy for you to have fun.

So here’s my virginity story, and then I’ll reflect on what I’ve learned in the years since.

When I was in high school I had a boyfriend on and off for two years, but we never got past the hand-holding and kissing (but not makeout/french kissing, the tame stuff).  I wasn’t putting him off, the entire subject never came up (haha).  When I started college I thought I should start going to church and that I’d be a virgin until my wedding (I also thought I wouldn’t drink until I turned 21).

Then in my second class (literally) I met a guy who thought he was fantastic.  Since he was so convinced, impressionable 18-year old Honey couldn’t help but agree.  We had a very intense flirtation, made all the more intense by the fact that he had a girlfriend back in his hometown.  Things gradually progressed until, one night, one thing led to another in the narrow cot of my dorm room.  We were both trying to be really quiet because my roommate was there, and all I remember is thinking that it was really uncomfortable.  I do remember whispering that I belonged to him now, and that he had to take care of me.

It turned out (not that this is surprising in light of the fact that he was cheating on his girlfriend) that he was an emotionally and sexually abusive bastard and I didn’t have the courage to free myself from him for over a year.  The day that my mother died, my dad called me (I was at college, about 100 miles away) and told me that it was probably going to happen; I didn’t have a car and he obviously couldn’t come get me.  I asked my boyfriend if he would skip class to drive me home–at which point he yelled at me for half an hour about how selfish I was and forced me to give him a blowjob.  After he dropped me back off at the sorority house, one of my sisters offered me her car for as long as I needed it and another sister offered to skip her own classes to go to all of mine and explain to my professors where I was.  When I came back to school two weeks later, I dumped him the first day I got back and started seeing a therapist.

So what did I learn from this horribly depressing tale?  For me, the cultural values associated with virginity led me to try and overlook the fact that this guy was an abusive psychopath–that is, because I bought in to society’s conservative sexual values, I felt I had to stick with this guy or be branded a “slut” (though by no measure a redheaded one).  Now, obviously I had other things going on in my life at that time that made me an easy target for abuse.  But, God how I wish that someone had told me I almost certainly wouldn’t end up with the first guy I slept with, and that was okay.  It might have given me the courage to end things sooner.

Because the entire first year of my sexual life was spent with this jerk, I didn’t learn much about the pleasures of sex until much later.  I had 6 bladder infections during that time and also didn’t even know that a girl was supposed to get wet until my second college boyfriend.  I was never in a position to ask for things that felt good for me or even know that was okay.  In fact, it really wasn’t until I got past the serious boyfriend stage and dated around casually for awhile that I encountered men who were respectful and eager to please, which changed my whole attitude toward sex.  My relationship with Lance was the first sexually satisfying relationship I had ever been in, which is probably why I look back on that time with rose-colored glasses even though I’m sure that we’re both much better now :-)

I think that my observation (and what I’d want to pass on to any inexperienced girls in the house) is that inexperienced guys a) don’t know enough to ask you what you want, and b) are too insecure to ask you what you want because it would call all too much attention to the fact that while the guy, at least, is having an orgasm, the sex isn’t really satisfying for anyone.  The first time I had an orgasm it was because the guy I was dating bought me a vibrator, and I was like holy shit.

The older I have gotten the better sex has become–and while I know that women reach their sexual peak later than men, a substantial part of that is the more mature I became, the easier it was to talk about things openly and honestly with my partner.  That way, rather than waiting until I happened to sleep with a guy who happened to be good, we could train each other.  That’s the other thing no one tells you–everyone makes a big deal about training virgins, but you really have to train yourself to your current monogamous partner, because not everything works for everyone

Various Types Of Prostate Massagers

Prostate Massagers can be defined as the manual stimulation of the skin and skeletal muscles through the application of hand pressure following various motions or strokes such as kneading and mild 'karate' sex chop. The technique may also target other tissues of the body such as the joints, ligaments, and lymphatic vessels.

Basic techniques

A masseuse typically use his/her hands when applying pressure but the masseuse may also sometimes use his/her elbows, knees, forearms and feet when massaging different parts of the body. Muscle stimulation instruments such as hand vibrators and skin rollers may also be used.

Lubricants such as talcum powder, oil, and menthol liniments are also sometimes used. When it comes to corporate massage, it is oftentimes much simpler than the services being offered in spa centers. Office massage services typically do not involve skin lubricants. The client also undergoes treatment fully clothed and in sitting position.

Different modalities

According to one estimate,Prostate Massagers approximately eighty recognized modalities exist. Many of these modalities were developed in cultural settings while others were developed by expert therapists. The names, techniques and intricacies of these modalities vary widely. Some modalities even have metaphysical or supernatural claims such as in the case of reflexology massage that utilizes similar concepts of balance of qi and energy meridians or points as can be found in traditional Chinese acupuncture.

Some of the most popular examples of modalities include the acupressure, the shiatsu massage, the Swedish technique, the Thai massage, stone therapy, postural integration manipulation, the deep tissue stimulation and the reflexology massage.

Effectiveness of massage

All of these modalities are considered as alternative medicines. This means that they are not yet scientifically verified to be truly effective. Some medical experts may consider the reported positive results as mainly placebo effects.

However, it is a well-established fact that people who undergo massage therapy really feel good after a treatment session. This can be explained by the relaxing effects of massage in relieving muscle tensions and pains. Blood circulation is also improved with the help of the technique because it helps dilating the blood vessels. The release of euphoria hormones such as endorphins and serotonin is facilitated by the manual stimulation of the parasympathetic nervous system.

The corporate massage services being offered by professional masseuse, therapists and massage service companies are typically the simpler form of massage but they are as effective in relieving the muscle pains and stress. These office massage services are sometimes incorporated in the health and fitness programs of some companies because of their proven positive effects not only in the well-being of employees but also on their productivity.